The Pitfalls of Being a Planner

While I was away on holiday, the most wonderful thing happened and my lovely boyfriend proposed. The proposal was everything I'd ever hoped for and I can't describe how incredibly grateful I am for the love I've been lucky enough to find with Alex.

Shortly after he proposed, we called our families to share the exciting news with them. Amongst all of the happy messages of congratulations, we were also asked the next logical question: when were we going to get married?

As a planner by nature, this set alarm bells ringing! He'd proposed less than an hour ago, but I wondered if we should already know the answer to this question. I suddenly felt the pressure that the organised one in a relationship feels and my mind started racing. Should we do it next summer so it's more likely that my 92 year old Nana will be able to attend, or should we wait until 2020 so we can save up for the wedding that we really want?

There are so many things for us to discuss and I know that the sooner we get started the better, but the planning traits in me almost meant that I bypassed the magic of our engagement by getting bogged down in wedding planning too soon.

Anyone else guilty of falling into this trap in any area of their life?

Fortunately for me, I have the best fiancé (yes, I do love typing that word) and he brought me right back into the present. Alex said that he wouldn't even consider discussing anything that seemed like it was making me stressed until after our holiday, but he did say that he was more than happy to share in my excitement and talk about all the fun things I've been pinning to my Wedding board on Pinterest since long before I even met him - and yes, before you ask, it is a great feeling to know that this board is no longer representative of a pipe dream for the far distant future and does actually serve a purpose.

Alex and I started a whole new chapter of our lives when he made the decision to propose and I made the decision to accept, and it’s important that we remember to take the time to savour this moment and not push forward too quickly.

Are there any areas of your life where you can take note of this sentiment too?

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