What if Things Turn Out Great?

Reduce negative thinking by asking positive questions.

To the contrary, I’m wired for anxiety, hypervigilance, and negative self-talk that’s designed to keep me “safe.” In other words, I’m much more likely to beat myself up for every fucking mistake than I am to pat myself on the back for a success.

Sound like you? Read on.

In my own recovery, as well as the coaching I do, I’ve been combining knowledge and techniques from a variety of sources such as NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming), CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), and Mindfulness.

One technique that I’d like to share is what I’m calling Flip the Script (original, I know 😏). It’s simple but powerful — check it out.

It came to me while driving to a date a while ago, and the usual anxiety and mental chatter popped up. I thought all sorts of things…

“What if I’m awkward?”

“What if she just wants to be friends?”

“What if we go back to my place and I forgot to clean something embarrassing?”

“What if it leads to sex and I don’t perform well?”

“What if sex goes well and I become attached too quickly?”

“What if my feelings are reciprocated and I shut down?”

That’s the shit that goes through my head by default.

“What if I can’t deliver this project on time?”

“What if I didn’t do it right and they fire me?”

“What if I can’t get enough clients?”

“What if I try this new venture and waste a lot of time and money?”

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