I Broke Up With Him Over Text

And that remains the biggest regret in my life.

It was summertime when he asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes without a doubt. But I was only 20, so young, and didn’t truly know what I signed up for.

He wasn’t my first boyfriend but definitely someone who deserved better than a girl like me.

He came right in time where I was so broken-hearted, so I selfishly thought doing a rebound would do the fix. Being so young and ambitious, I wanted things to go my way, and if not, I’d consider myself a failure.

So when my crush rejected me in front of our friends, I felt ashamed and didn’t have much worth. I legit spent my three years trying to get this guy’s love to the point where I lost myself in it.

That year I learned when someone doesn’t like you back, it doesn’t matter how much you do to “prove it,” they aren’t going to change their mind. If they ever do, then it means you’re a “compromise” to them.

When I stopped looking for love altogether and focused on my study instead, this new guy suddenly showed up in my life. With me, who haven’t fully moved on from my ex-crush, I stupidly gave it a try.

When you’re young, you have this tendency to accept whoever is showing you love and giving you attention. You don’t know what you want from a partner, but you thought you still have time to “figure it out.”

And that’s what exactly was on my mind. If only I knew the consequences that I had to take.

While it’s unfair to say this new guy was a bad person (’cause he clearly wasn’t), he saw relationships in a very traditional way. He thought women don’t make a decision in a relationship; men do.

Sure, he gave up smoking and started to read books more often, but I knew he did it all for me, which was something I wasn’t cool with.

I was too young to understand the traits of couples in a healthy relationship, but I knew for sure I didn’t want anyone to change just because they wanted to make me happy.

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